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Thomas Bennett Obituary

BENNETT The Reverend Monsignor Thomas M. Bennett, died on Sunday, September 7, 2008, at Mohun Health Care Center. Monsignor Bennett was a Catholic priest of the Diocese of Columbus who devoted his life to the priesthood and the students of St. Charles Preparatory School. The son of John and Helen (Strawinski) Zbytniewski, Monsignor Bennett was born November 18, 1931 in Detroit, Michigan. He was preceded in death by his parents and brothers Clarence, Ernest, and John and sisters-in-law Kathleen and Ilene. He is survived by brothers, Charles (Carolyn) Bennett and Paul (Deborah) Bennett; sister-in-law, Margaret Bennett; nieces, nephews and cousins. He attended elementary and high school at St. Gregory School, Detroit. Monsignor Bennett studied at St. Charles College Seminary in Columbus, Ohio, where he received a B.A. in Philosophy in 1953 and an M.A. in History from The Ohio State University. He subsequently studied theology at St. Mary Major Seminary, Norwood, Ohio, from which he graduated in 1957. Monsignor Bennett was ordained to the priesthood for the Diocese of Columbus on May 25, 1957, at St. Joseph Cathedral by Bishop Edward Hettinger. In 1992, he was named a Monsignor when the Holy Father John Paul II bestowed upon him the title of Prelate of Honor. His assignments included assistant pastor St. Joseph Cathedral (1957-1960), Blessed Sacrament Church, Newark (1960-1963) and St. Thomas the Apostle Church, Columbus (1963-1964). He served as an instructor at Newark Catholic High School (1960-1963) before beginning his 46 year tenure as an instructor at St. Charles Preparatory School. During this time, Monsignor Bennett provided sacramental assistance at several Columbus parishes, most recently at Immaculate Conception Church, Columbus. In addition, Monsignor Bennett served as Administrator Pro Tem at St. Catharine of Siena Church, Columbus (1978) and Church of the Ascension, Johnstown (1981-1982). Monsignor Bennett was appointed Diocesan Archivist in 1988 and continued in this capacity until his death. Monsignor Bennett's body will lie in state at St. Charles Preparatory School's Mother of Mercy Chapel, 2010 E. Broad St., Wednesday, September 10, where friends may call from 4-8 p.m. and Thursday from 10 a.m.-12Noon. The Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 12:30 p.m. in the Robert C. Walter Student Commons, St. Charles Preparatory School. Bishop Frederick F. Campbell will be the principal celebrant and Monsignor Kenneth F. Grimes will offer the homily. Interment St. Joseph Cemetery. Friends who wish may contribute to Monsignor Thomas Bennett Scholarship Fund, St. Charles Preparatory School, 2010 East Broad Street, Columbus, OH 43209. www.stcharlesprep.org. Arrangements by EGAN - RYAN FUNERAL HOME, 403 East Broad Street. Visit www.egan-ryan.com for condolences. Sign the online guestbook at www.dispatch.com/obituaries

Published by The Columbus Dispatch from Sep. 8 to Sep. 10, 2008.
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Father & Uncle I think of you always.

"Hail to thee from all creatures from every land, from the height of heaven, from the depth of the sea.
The spirits thou hast made extol thee, saying, welcome to thee, father of the fathers of the gods; we worship thy spirit which is in us."

A hymn to Amun-Ra inspired by his interests, one of which was Egyptian monotheism. Friends of St Charles, and others posting here, thank you for remembering.

C Bernard

November 19, 2012

As posted on Father's door...

The Soldier

If I should die, think only this of me:
That there's some corner of a foreign field
That is for ever England. There shall be
In that rich earth a richer dust concealed;
A dust whom England bore, shaped, made aware,
Gave, once, her flowers to love, her ways to roam,
A body of England's, breathing English air,
Washed by the rivers, blest by suns of home.

And think, this heart, all evil shed away,
A pulse in the eternal mind, no less
Gives somewhere back the thoughts by England given;
Her sights and sounds; dreams happy as her day;
And laughter, learnt of friends; and gentleness,
In hearts at peace, under an English heaven.
Rupert Brooke, 1914

Alumnibus Sancti Caroli

November 18, 2012

Happy Birthday Father...we love you still and miss you greatly.

The Men of St. Charles

November 18, 2012

Additionally, I send my heartfelt gratitude to all of the St Charles alumni, faculty, and friends for adding so richly to his life.

carol bernard

September 6, 2011

Tomorrow will be a day of remembrance for me. He used to babysit me, his niece, prior to his ordination in the early 50s when I was very young. He was the embodiment of the kind father. He meant very much to me. He was the epitome of with and dry humor. I travel with his picture even now. He entertained different perspectives thoughtfully and dispassionately. He was calm and he was FUNNY! I love you Old Bean!

Carol bernard

September 6, 2011

It is 3 am, and I find myself reading these entries months after Father's passing, still getting goosebumps. I entered "Father Bennett" in a random Google search, which led me here again, and found that he is properly documented online, especially on YouTube and Facebook. An impressive feat for a man of his age, yet in no way surprising. Father Bennett will live on in the hearts and minds of Carolians forever, and I am sure we all revel in the fact that there are many ways we can access the infamous stories and mannerisms of this true hero.

There are too many stories for me to tell, but I would like to share one observation: I have found that when two or more St. Charles students/alumni are gathered, the topic of St. Charles is discussed (no matter the time, the place, nor the number of non-SC people involved). And this leads to hilarious tales of the greatness of Father.

Father, it was a pleasure to be taught by you, to share dinner with you, and to throw "Butterscotch!" for you. I am proud to be an FBF and a fellow Pole.

Daniel Wodarcyk '08

June 17, 2009

As we make our resolutions for a new year without Father Bennett as part of our earthly journey -- let's recall his final words to many of us at the Baccalaureate Mass. "Gentlemen: Put God First."

Loyal St. Charles Alumnus

January 2, 2009

Msgr. Bennett... what a hole his departure leaves in the heart of all men of St. Charles. Many of my most formative memories and experiences of my years there center around him and his classes. I'll always remember his "narcolepsy" fits during class, and how he pushed us to not accept anything than our personal best. One of the greatest lessons that I now realized that I learned from him was how as becoming young men we needed to be able to hold ourselves to account for our actions and decisions and that this lessons needed to be applied both inside and out outside the classroom. Msgr. Bennett, thank you for the wonderful life lessons. Thank you for your stern yet fair demeanor when we needed a swift kick (or a few push-ups). Thank you for your endearing and warm side, letting us know that it was okay to feel. Thank you for all the ghost stories. Thank you for the lessons and the memories. Thank you for helping me to know that Chester A. Arthur was our 21st President!

Matthew Ryan '94

October 8, 2008

The St. Gregory class of "1949" send their deepest condolences. We were very proud of the work that Msgr. Bennett did. He truly loved his work.

October 1, 2008

I was extremely shocked and saddened to learn that Msgr. Bennett had been called to his heavenly abode. Our Cardinal Family has lost one of its greatest and endearing treasures. I always appreciated his caring, yet tempermental view of life. Many of us shared the best of times at St. Charles during US History and the ever-popular, Current Events course. Those of us who had the amazing opportunity to be 'yelled at' by Father were all affected in the most positive of ways!! I did get to see him briefly on a visit to the school last year, and he still remembered. It's always feels good to come home, yet it will never be the same place. That's the blessing he left for the St. Charles Family and now we have a powerful ally in heaven to pray for us. May God find favor with his loving servant and continue to pour out His grace to us. WE WILL MISS YOU OLD FRIEND!

Corey Belcher

September 27, 2008

What an excellent teacher, mentor and elder statesman of St. Charles. I am sure Father Bennett inspired many young men with his quick wit, unique personality and teaching style (a few push-ups never hurt anybody). While I am sure his passing will forever change the St. Charles experience, I trust that his legacy and impact on the school will endure.

Dave Thornton '86

September 27, 2008

What an excellent teacher, mentor and elder statesman of St. Charles. I am sure Father Bennett inspired many young men with his quick wit, unique personality and teaching style (a few push-ups never hurt anybody). While I am sure his passing will forever change the St. Charles experience, I trust that his legacy and impact on the school will endure.

Dave Thornton

September 27, 2008

I will always fondly remember Fr. Bennett and his positive influence on my life.

Chris Young DPM

September 26, 2008

Father Bennett was an extraodinary teacher who made a deep impression on anyone who met him. Our sons Daniel (1999) and David (2002) were lucky to have him for History. We are thankful that our son Tommy (2011) had a chance to meet him. Father Bennett will always live in the hearts of everyone. Our thoughts and prayers to his family.

Maria & Leo Castillo

September 26, 2008

I was very saddened to hear of the passing of Fr. Bennett. He is one of the reasons I became a social studies teacher. I will forever enjoy sharing stories about how he conducted himself in and out of the classroom. To this day I cannot erase a board without hearing his voice call out, "Don't erase like a girl!"

Todd Kreider ('86)

September 23, 2008

I am deeply saddened to have heard from a close friend of mine of the passing of Father Bennett. I still remember the fear I felt when going to the Book store in the basement as a freshman and also all the pushups that entailed when I did something stupid. I also remember all the imaginary chin hairs that was plucked even before I knew what a razor was. Most of all I will remember the encouragement that was given me after graduation on my enlistment in the military and later on my involvement in Desert storm.

I will always hold a special place in my heart for you, Father B...

William Ireland(85)

September 21, 2008

I am so sorry for the lost of your dear loved one. It's comforting
to know that God cares for all of us and losing a loved
one is something we cannot get use to. The Bible gives us hope
that one day we can see our dear loved one again. On behalf of all mankind Jesus surrender his soul for many. John 15:13 says “No one has love greater than this, that someone should surrender his soul on behalf of his friends.” Truly I am sorry to hear of the loss of your dear loved one and I hope these few words will bring you comfort and hope.

Susan

September 20, 2008

I was very fortunate to share a dinner this past year with Father and a few of my closest friends. Words cannot express how wonderful of an experience that was. His dry humor and concern for every single students well being is beyond compare to anyone else. I remember us bringing him a gift for dinner, stunna shades, and how he said they looked rediculous. I will cherish that evening for eternity. To be a part of his last year is something special to me and all my fellow classmates, but knowing how happy he is right now in heaven removes the sadness. The last thing Father would ever want was for people to be sad or upset, especially for him. Lets celebrate a life lived in service to the Lord. God Bless

Patrick Quinn '08

September 19, 2008

The Man at the End of the Bench

"His grand entrance into the stadium begins. Riding shotgun on a John Deere. Driver, take care not to jostle the precious cargo. The young Carolians roar their approval as their legend passes by. Gentlemen: Front and center.

The chanting. The love. The tribute. FahhhThurr Bennn-ett...FahhhThurr Bennn-ett...FahhhThurr Bennn-ett. Bishops Square and the Meadow Parkers heard it all but they never had a clue.

They don't stop until he waves. Sheepish but it gets the job done.

He takes his place alone at the end of the bench in his priestly Blacks. A jaunty British driver's cap and wool jacket complete the picture of our favorite Anglophile.

His Roman collar fixed, he stares onto the field. Blurs of Red and White. Grunting. Bodies flying. Shouts and cursing. Teen spirit surrounds the field of play. He never flinches.

The moon rises and a chill settles over him. The game is well in hand --the lessons well taught. He motions to his driver. It's time to leave. The boys will be fine."

We will miss you terribly at Homecoming this year Father. Throw us down a blessing.

September 18, 2008

Their is waiting a work where only his hands can avail; And so, if he falters, a chord in the music will fail. He may laugh to the sky, he may lie for an hour in the sun; But he dare not go hence till the labor appointed is done.

Well done, Msgr. Bennett, a job well done. You inspired so many of us to ascend to the stars and never ever, never ever give up on our dreams. I thank you for all that you have given to me during my years at St. Charles. It is with tears of saddness and joy that you have moved from labor to reward. I thank you for your kindness, discipline, and care. You were a blessing from God to the entire St. Charles family. You will be missed!

Dwight Shanklin ('84)

Dwight Shanklin

September 17, 2008

The positive impact you had on our son's life cannot be measured. Thank you for being the kind, gentle, firm soul that you were.

Ane and Dave Ives

September 17, 2008

For many years Father Bennett was in charge of running the student bookstore (yes there was actually such an animal at one point in SC history). The store was located in the school's basement level in what today is the janitorial supply room. There was a "dutch door" and Father set up operations there and processed orders like he was on the trading floor of a mercantile exchange. This commotion scared the bejeebers out of any freshmen who strayed near this den. There was always much shouting and commotion by his upper-classmen helpers who enoyed haranguing the rats and sophomores just as much as Father. That image of him is set in my mind forever.

Loyal Carolian and '70s FBF

September 16, 2008

Although I went to St. Charles for only 3 years I know MGSR. will be missed at was always liked by the students and faculty, especially when he made his way from campus to the stadium on Fridays Nights. RIP Father Bennett.

Jeremy Drumheller

September 15, 2008

Monsignor Bennett was a man of great wisdom, faith, knowledge, and determination. Thirty years have passed, and it seems like only yesterday. I'm sure that the halls of St. Charles will echo for some time to come. Of all the teachers I have encountered in my schooling, I feel that very few had a true impact, Msgr Bennett was one of them. He was a true legacy and his memory will remain embedded in the minds of many. Deepest sympathy to his family and numerous friends in the loss of a great man.

Tom Ritz ('78)

September 15, 2008

I was fortunate enough to have Monsignor Bennett for several classes, and as a result, I performed hundreds of pushups and repeatedly learned the correct manner in which to button a shirt and tie a cravat.

However, it was during my graduating class’s Baccalaureate Mass that Monsignor Bennett delivered his final lesson as our teacher which seemed to sum up everything that we were supposed to learn as students at St. Charles – “Keep God first”.

Twenty years later, as a parent with children at St. Paul School in Westerville, I often run into many fellow St. Charles alumni at school or sporting events, and it’s great to see that we are doing well in life - both professionally and personally. However, it’s even better when we see each other at Mass on Sunday mornings as grown men with our families living the life lesson that we received as boys from Monsignor Bennett.

The lessons learned at St. Charles prepare young men for college, and grown men for life.

Geoff Novak (89)

September 15, 2008

To all who have signed the guestbook...Monsignor Tom Bennett was my uncle, and I join one of my brothers and one of my sisters in writing into this forum to say thank you to all of you St. Charles students, parents, alumni and friends for your remembrances of this greatest of men.

When I was there for the viewing and funeral, I remembered how Uncle Father Tom would, without hesitation, do a favor. He married my wife and I in 1991, and in 1998, baptised my daughter Cristina. He mentioned how he loved my daughter's name since it was the same name as one of the Spanish princesses, the Infanta Cristina. Though he followed the Bourbons, I suspect from reading this, that he favored the Windsors.

Also, when I was there, I was awestruck by the simple, elegant act of the student body of St. Charles as they lined the drive when Uncle Father Tom was driven to his final resting place. I was so moved by this tribute.

Thank you Saint Charles for the sendoff you gave my uncle, and for the kindness you showed to me and my family.

Phil Bernard

September 14, 2008

Thank you Father Bennett for everything. One of the best people I have ever met.

Miles Costello

September 13, 2008

Father,
As Freshman, we feared you.
As Sophomores, we were fascinated by you.
As Juniors, we understood you.
As Seniors, we appreciated you.
As Alumni, we adore you.

Only a great man as yourself could create adoration from fear. Thank you, and until we meet again, God bless.

Michael Fishking '98

September 12, 2008

My beloved co--worker and friend for many, many years. St. Charles will never be the same without you. Rest in peace. Take care of my son. See you soon!

jeanne schaefer

September 12, 2008

I will miss not seeing you my favourite "curmudgeon", but I will talk to you every morning in our chapel.
Frau

Pierrette Pena

September 12, 2008

Msgr. Bennet has left a lasting impact on the thousands of young men who have passed through the halls at St. Charles. Many times during my service in the Navy I have thought about how proud he would be of what I am doing. Much of what has made me the man I am today can be attributed to him.

Requiescat in pace

MM1(SS) Charles Saffell

September 12, 2008

The world has lost a great person, a spiritual leader, and a dedicated teacher. Father was not only a positive influence on countless students that came through St. Charles, he also helped mold those students that entered his class as boys into the men they are today. Father embodied the St. Charles spirit and though he may be gone, he will always be remembered.

Thank you for everything Father.

Benjamin Tilton, '02

September 12, 2008

The entire Saint Charles community will truly miss Monsignor Bennett. I feel bad for future Saint Charles men who will not have the opportunity to learn from Father. Apodictically speaking, one can clearly state that nobody will be able to replace the lessons he taught.

Eric Bozymski '02

September 12, 2008

I have two alumni sons, Josh '03 and Christopher '05. Josh is now serving in the Peace Corps in Zambia, Africa. I can't help but to think of all the stories he would tell us about Father Bennett. He has so much love and respect for Father. I have to believe that this man, who demanded so much of the boys, especially to be their brother's keeper, had an impact on who my two young men are today. A man who is serving in the Peace Corps in Africa and another, Christopher, who hopes to serve the world as a physician. My great regret is that my youngest, Brian '13, will not know this man, who will never be replicated at St. Charles. However, his stories at our dinner table will live on forever! Peace to you Father Bennett. God Bless you and all the wonderful people at St. Charles who love you.

patty vetter

September 12, 2008

As I experienced the funeral today, I was overcome by the realization that we have reached the end of an era.

Fr. Bennett's presence was so grand and intimidating to the young, and so gentle and wise to those of us fortunate enough now to be men.

I thank God that so many of us have had the opportunity to experience this man and also Msgr. Gallen, both of whom were such incredibly rare men whose spirits were strong enough to stick on young men when little else could.

It is the end of an era, and I am sad about that, sad that I will never see Fr. Bennett walking the halls or hear his shoes or how his jowls flapped when he said, "Nooooo."

But I will always remember him, especially those many mornings before school when I would get there very early and sit in his apartment right there in the middle of the second floor and just talk until it was time for homeroom or Mass.

Reading through these entries I am amazed at how many lives he touched, and so very happy to have been one of them, as well as my three sons (Adam, Joel '04, and Gabe '08), who spoke about him more than any other teacher and with so much fondness.

You're the best, Fr. Bennett!

Mike Schaefer, '78

September 11, 2008

Father, you will live on forever in the hearts of all your boys, and all their mothers who so appreciate your help in leading, guiding, teaching and loving them.
I am honored and grateful to have known you and worked along side you.
We miss you Father.
Rest in Peace

Sarah Vandermeer, Chris's Mom

September 11, 2008

The world has lost a GREAT person that GOD had blessed us all with on this earth for all of Fr. Bennett’s 76 years. I know all of my memories of Father Bennett are some of my fondest and most cherished at St. Charles. He will continue to live within each and everyone he taught at St. Charles.

May his soul rest in peace in the palm of GODS hand!!!!!

Tom Caito, Class of 1975

Tom Caito

September 11, 2008

I can’t recite the Presidents anymore. Most of the American History I learned is gone. I find myself ducking every time I cough, in fear of a cough drop being thrown at me. But, everyday, as I face new challenges, I think of the dedication, care, and support that you gave to us students at St. Charles.

It was an honor to learn from you as a student at St. Charles, and to help serve your Mass at IC.

When my Mother passed, you came with roses. I will never forget that.

Thank you for showing us young, foolhardy boys how to be men. Your presence will be sorely missed, but your life teachings never forgotten.

My prayers go to your family and friends.

Nick Tichich, '94

Nicholas Tichich

September 11, 2008

Father,
Even though I never had the chance to have you as a teacher, I have heard so many great things from my uncle and father about you. You have shown what it truly means to be a carolian. I was truly honored to be in the honor guard for your funeral. Thank you for your many years of dedication to St. Charles.

Stuart Gilchrist(Class of 09)

September 11, 2008

Requiem aeternam dona ei, Domine,
Et lux perpetua luceat ei.

Ty Tomson '03

September 11, 2008

Rest in Peace Fr Bennett knowing that you have touched my life in a positive way. I wish we had more teachers like you for it surely would be a better place to live.

James Edward Berry, Jr '78

September 11, 2008

Father Bennett was a great teacher and a great man who inspired his many students to grow into great men. He is a legend at St. Charles and will be greatly missed. Rest in Peace Father.

Phil Schaeffing, '02

September 11, 2008

Msgr. Bennett impacted every life that he touched. I have fond memories of the years that I spent in his classroom. His example and genuine care for his students have helped to mold me into the person that I am. May Father Bennett rest in peace.

Christopher A. Bryan '78

September 11, 2008

Father,
May you rest in peace and may the angels above be prepared to do the pushups I encountered under your guidance that gives me the strength to carry on each day.

With Love

David A. Glenn II

September 11, 2008

As students, alumni and families mourn the loss of Monsignor (“Father”) Bennett, let us never forget the profound impact he made on each of our lives. As freshman we were fascinated / afraid of the great man who mowed us down in the lower halls. We learned that the act of accepting M&Ms from Father was synonymous with robbing him of food and precious nutrients. As sophomores we lived among the bruised and bloody messes who needed to re-learn how to properly shave or how to secure their top buttons. As juniors we became physically fit via pushups and were encouraged think quickly with our responses in effort to keep up with Father’s questioning.

As a senior I had the opportunity to witness Father’s true excitement after being called into the book closet for some unruly behavior. Not knowing what to expect, Father started throwing books and whispered for me to start yelling as though I were being reprimanded. He loosened my tie, messed up my hair and told me to walk back into the classroom with a look of pain and sorrow. I wish that I could more accurately describe the look on the student’s faces that day.

As a little brother I have doubts that my older brother will always be smarter and more handsome. I have doubts that I should never reproduce. What I am certain of; we should be grateful for the role Father played in our lives. He was instrumental in preparing and turning us into the successful men we are today. Monsignor Bennett will certainly be missed.

Michael & Kathleen Novak

Michael Novak

September 11, 2008

Father you will be greatly missed. Even though I never had you for a class the way that you presented yourself makes me want to be more like you.

Eythan Gregory ('09)

September 11, 2008

Father Bennett often talked and joked about death...even his own. He once remarked to a mutual friend, "there's nothing deader than a dead priest". Well, I don't recall ever being in a position to say this, but, how wrong you were, Father. As evidenced by the pages of cherished recollections in this guest book, you have never been more vibrant and alive in our hearts and minds. Last night nearly 2000 people came to pay their respects and thank you for all you have meant to them, their sons, wives, mothers and the school that we all love. Today thousands more will join the celebration of your extraordinary life. They will crowd into the school's commons, having come from all corners of the country. Those who can't be here in person, will watch a live webcast that is available around the world. Family, friends, former and current students have spent days, and will spend many more, recounting cherished memories of you. Any of us could only hope to be as alive as you are today.

Father, I can assure you that your indelible legacy will live on through those whom you have taught so well. You have nurtured and trained thousands of fine young men and sent them out into the world ready to be good servants to their fellow man. You challenged us to use our God-given gifts to the fullest. That challenge, and our love for you live on.

Love from us all,

Bob, '79, my son Bobby '10, my brother Tim, '83 and the rest of my family

Bob Horner, '79

September 11, 2008

I <3 Father

September 11, 2008

Father Bennett has touched and inspired many lives throughout his many years at Saint Charles. I knew him since I was a young toddler. The whole Saint Charles community will miss you and we hope that you are at peace with the Lord.

Andrew Zuk '09

September 11, 2008

Father

The entire Saint Charles community misses you and all that you stood for. I never had you for class, but you affected my life in many ways. Thank you for always caring about me and my classmates. You and your family are in my family's prayers. You will be deeply missed.

MacGregor Obergfell '09

September 11, 2008

In 2003 I was working for the bank and Msgr. Bennett would come in all the time. Before I got to know him, I was given a list of customer names to call and set appointments. When I called "Thomas Bennett" I didn't realize he was a priest and I asked "Mr. Bennett" if he would like to meet with me and review his financial situation. He said that would be fine and we set a time to meet. When he came into the bank with his collar on and I realized he was a priest, I apologized profusely for not calling him Father. He said in a very direct and intimidating voice, "That's ok, what do you have that I need?" We talked and discovered some products that would be beneficial to him and he went with my recommendations. He told me, "I have complete trust in you!" I got to know him fairly well afterwards and eventually I started looking into the priesthood. I didn't tell him this and when he saw me serving at the Ordination Mass, he gave me this look that said, "what are you doing here?" I ended up entering the seminary in 2006 and recently left to work and save up some money. If I become a priest, get married or spend the rest of my life as a single man, I will do it to the best of my ability. He was a role model for all vocations. Msgr. Bennett had a bigger influence on me than he knows. He will be missed by all of us at the bank.

Karl Borchers

September 11, 2008

Father Bennett has impacted St. Charles and its students for over forty years and his presence will continue to be evident for years to come. The lives he touched and the care he demonstrated for his students is unmatched. The information Father taught his students will not be remembered for its academic value, rather the life lessons that helped each student develop as a man. Father will be missed by all. May he rest in peace.

Patrick Masciangelo '08

September 11, 2008

Father's passion for life is something that will always inspire me. He is one of the most beloved figures in the history of St. Charles and he will never be forgotten by any of the men he tought. Always a gentlemen, scholar, and mentor I am truly privileged to have had Father as a teacher.

Stephen Hunter '08

September 11, 2008

I, like all the St. Charles men before and after me, was greatly influenced by Father Bennett. He taught us how to be good and decent men, committed to serving our Lord. You will be greatly missed by us all.

Thomas Hurst '07

September 11, 2008

Father Bennett, you will be greatly missed by the St. Charles community. Your presence was one that influenced the entire school, as well as the Diocese. You were such a blessing for so many people, and you truly impacted the lives of countless young men. May you rest peacefully in Heaven -- after all, that was the only place you ever wanted to be, other than St. Charles of course.

Andy Hudelson

September 11, 2008

Father you will be missed greatly. You touched the lives of so many people. I am proud to have had you as a teacher. You have made me a strong individual. I know your giving all the saints trouble up there! Ill miss you and God Bless.

Ryan Donovan

September 10, 2008

Father,

You have been an inspiration to all who knew you, and are one of the great men to walk this earth. May you find eternal peace in your new life in our Lord.

Ed Hudelson

September 10, 2008

Father Bennett, where to start. He was more than a teacher of history, he was a teacher of life. He taught us how to be gentlemen and how to live our lives the right way. I will always be grateful for his advice and support in my decision to go to WP. This has already been said, but Father is and will forever be synonomous with Saint Charles as its icon. Thank you, Father, for everything.

Jay Laing '07

September 10, 2008

If you were a freshman doing push ups, you learned quickly to properly address Fr. Bennett with "yes Father" and "no Father", to always be respectful, and to never bad-mouth the Queen of England!

Like everyone who knew him, every memory of Father Bennett I have are great memories. When he demanded respect from his students, he did it in a way that made every student want to be better, and he was liked by every student he ever had.

I've found myself telling stories to my family about Father Bennett. He will be sadly missed by all but and I have no doubt his legacy will live on in the halls of St. Charles.

Justin Eagleson

September 10, 2008

I have never known a man that has touched so many souls in such a personal and positive way. He is sorely missed by all those that knew him. His influences will live on for generations through those that he guided and mentored while on this earth.

Nathan Myers '96

Nathan Myers

September 10, 2008

Father- Thank you for all of your years of service to the Saint Charles students. We will all be forever grateful. Father would always at mass before football games that we should turn to the man next to us and say that we will play our best. I can promise that this friday every football player will play his best and bring home a victory in honor of father.

A.J. Wehr

September 10, 2008

The angels in heaven are all doing push ups - and smiling with each one because they know another man of love has come to join them!

Peace to Msg.'s family & friends.

Fern Colon

September 10, 2008

Monsignor, our Patron with his last breath said "Ecce, venio." Our every prayer is that Saint Charles now is proclaiming, "Ecce, ille venit." For all the deeds you have done, small and great; for all the ways you have guided your "sons," we are forever grateful.

John O'Neil

September 10, 2008

There are so many things that can be said about this great man: devoted, wise, faithful.

Sadly I have not been able to get know Father as well as some. Being a member of the class of '09 I will not have the privalege and the honor to learn from this wise and caring man. In light of this I do not have as many stories and fond memories of father as others, but what I do have are the memories of his family, friends, and students coming to show their respects to the man whom they all loved and respected.

I will never forget this my senior year, when people flocked from across the country to come and see Father, when I watched as they carried his casket past as we sang the Alma Mater, and when I knelt next to him in the chapel as people came to say goodbye.

The conclusion to our Alma Mater says: "...As ages pass away, Lift we our hearts to say; Saint Charles, hail!" Truly an age has passed with the death of this great, preist, teacher, ralative, friend, and human being. The golden age of St. Charles, of his forty six years, has comed to an end; and he will surly be missed.

However, Father would not want us to despair; he would want us to continue on learning, caring for one another, and showing the same wisdom and devotion as he did at St. Charles in all aspects of our lives. So it is with his passing, and the passing of an age, we say: "Lift we our hearts to say; Saint Charles hail!"

God bless you Father Bennet may you continue to look down upon us from your seat in heaven, and may you rest in peace.

Tyler Mears '09

September 10, 2008

What a grand reunion there must have been in Heaven September 7th!
My sympathy and prayers are with Msgr. Bennett's loved ones including his St. Charles family,

Sr. Marilyn Sue Hopkins

September 10, 2008

Father,
Thank you for serving St. Charles for so many years and for leaving us so many great memories. You will always be remembered.

Andrew Burkey

September 10, 2008

Father Bennett was one of the most influential teachers I had in all my years of schooling. He was a big part in getting me through St. Charles and for that I am very thankful. I am sorry that future Carolians will not have the opportunity to meet him because he was an incredible asset to a great institution. May he always be remembered for what he was; a great mentor and an even better man.

Danny Butler '02

September 10, 2008

I went to work for Father Bennett just over ten years ago, and it's difficult to imagine what my life would be like now if I hadn't. As I'm writing from the other side of the Atlantic Ocean surrounded by an apartment full of books and neckties, I feel nothing but gratitude for a wonderful man who changed my life. The fact that my story is only one out of thousands shows just how much of an impact Father had.

Daniel Shanahan '01

September 10, 2008

First, it is hard to sum up everything that Father means to a St. Charles senior in just a paragraph, but I will try my best. There was not a single day during my senior year where I did not look forward to walking into my third period class to see Father sitting in his chair at the front of the room waiting for me to walk in so he could yell at me for my hair being "disheveled" or my shirt being un-tucked. I looked forward to him telling the class about his trip to Germany, even though everyone had heard it the last 8 consecutive days.

Nothing was better than seeing the smile on his face after the entire class stood up to sing " God Save the Queen" followed by "O' Canada" and "The Star-Spangled Banner."

It is safe to say that St. Charles has truly lost an extraordinary man who will be missed by everyone.

-"Father one more butterscotch for ol' times sake"

FBF

Derek Kyle Jennings '08

September 10, 2008

I will forever consider it my blessing to have taught for six years with this giant of Catholic education in the Diocese of Columbus, two of which were spent in the room next door to his. The love he had from his students and the respect of his peers is something rarely seen in this world. I fear heaven may be less tranquil now, but it has gained a great soul and this world has lost a great man. Rest in Peace Fr. Bennett.

Matt Downey

September 10, 2008

St. Charles has lost a great person but Msgr. Bennett will eternally be a part of St. Charles. I am so glad that my son Austin had the opportunity to have met him also while at St. Charles. Some of my fondest memories are of our visits in his apartment before school watching and discussing the issues/news that were on his television. May you rest in peace Msgr. Bennett

Hans Guter(1980)

September 10, 2008

"Gentlemen...gentlemen...the Presidents ..are coming.." The words we all dreaded to hear. Of course we had heard about the infamous "Presidents Test" from our upper-classmen. The test that Father Bennett gave each year to unsuspecting students asking them to jot down the names and dates of all the U.S. Presidents from beginning to end. We all knew he would stand up..walk to the window and in a quiet steady tone, with a thousand yard stare ,utter that ominous phrase..True to form he did indeed enact the ritual one spring afternoon and we quickly scrabbled to get it down.I believe I got them all, due to weeks of study.Father Bennett was a force to be reckoned with. He demanded respect and he got it. He was funny, intelligent, thoughtful and eccentric. He told great stories and kept us engaged. We will miss you dearly. "Jolly goodie gumdrops"

James Babson

September 10, 2008

Father,

You wisdom will forever live on in the hearts of those whose lives you have touched. Rest in peace.

Tony Tertuliani

September 10, 2008

I was visiting my aunt, Sr. Agnes Goode at Mohun Hall recently and happened to see Fr. Bennett being wheeled down the hallway, his room was at the end of the hall. I rushed down the hallway to say hello, introduced myself and told him my son, Joe attended St. Charles. Without hesitation, he said "Oh yes, he was a fine young student and a fine young man."

I told Father that it was good to see him and that I appreciated all he had done for the young men who attended St. Charles.

My son Joe just called me to tell me he was going to St. Charles as Fr. Bennett had passed away on Sunday.

As Fr. Bennett touched our lives, I'm sure he did that with each and every individual that attended St. Charles and had the fortune of knowing Fr. Bennett.

Teri Carbonaro

September 10, 2008

May the good Lord be prepared for a good and decent man. I was proud to call him a friend. My thoughts and prayers to Monsignor's family.

God speed,

Jeff Pharion

September 10, 2008

Fr. Bennett,

You are proof of how one simple man can have such a profound impact on so many lives. You've given me countless memories of push-ups for our stupidity, our resemblance to rowdys, FBF's, clean-shaven faces, the joys of history, ice blues and strawberry candies, and lunch menu recitals, just name a few of the many. You were and always will be a binding force to all who went to SC and had you for a teacher. Thanks for your service to the school, the teachers, the parents, and the students of Saint Charles.

Frank Roberts

Frank Roberts '07

September 10, 2008

A great man may have fallen silent but his memory will echo in the halls of St Charles. Thank you Msgr. Bennett for your nearly half century of devotion to the students of St Charles and your unselfish vocation to the Church. You will be missed. God's speed on your new journey.

Stephen & Mary Ann Jepsen

September 10, 2008

I am truly sorry for all those who, during their freshman year, have not been yelled at by Father, or been forced to do push-ups incessantly for their stupidity. For behind all of this was true love and hope that we would exit St. Charles as true, intelligent gentlemen. He is the true example of what St. Charles Preparatory School is, and he will be missed forever.

Christopher Doman

September 10, 2008

Father Bennett will be missed, and I feel for the future students and families who will never know his wit, grace, and charm. It is our duty to continue sharing our stories and memories of him, so that his legacy can live on-- and also to live our lives in ways that would make him proud.

Charles Butler '02

September 10, 2008

Thomas Yonk

September 10, 2008

You will be sorely missed, Father Bennett. Enjoy meeting all the great men of history you taught us so much about. (Just don't give them too many push-ups...)

I'm sorry I can't be there to pay my respects. Instead, I'm sending a cravat along with a fellow Carolian as a token of my esteem and respect. Maybe someone up there needs one.

Requiescat in Pace, Pater

David Kerscher ('86)

September 10, 2008

It was truly an honor to have known and been taught by Msgr. Bennett. His display of discipline and respect has got me where I am today. Every time I put on a tie, I always make sure my top button is secure. And everytime I do push-ups, I always think of him.
Thank you for making such a positive impact in my life Msgr. I will never forget you.

Shawn Wilkinson '89

September 10, 2008

I will always remember the first telephone call I received from some one at St. Charles. It was Father Bennett. He informed me that my son, Dan, had turned in a homework assignment that was quite good but unfortunately, it wasn't his own work. After some discussion he said with a laugh, "Boys will be boys!" Tonight, I will get out the Father Bennett bobble head, put it back on the shelf and remember, with a laugh, "Boys will be boys!"

Dan Foley's Mom

Sandra Veach

September 10, 2008

Father,

As with all your other students, so many stories come to mind when your name is mentioned. Push ups for not improving scores on exams, noises from the woods outside your classroom (a signal to us that the presidents test was coming in the near future), and dragging helpless freshmen into class for walking by your room (I was one of them!). Aside from the many stories, you have had a profound impact on my life and the life of all your students and will be greatly missed. God bless you and your family.

Steve Prout - Class of '97

September 10, 2008

What a gift Monsignor was to this world. We will never forget his inspiring Christmas homilies at Immaculate Conception. He would always "gently remind us" that Christmas is a Holy Day and not a holiday. He is the reason our son is now a student at St. Charles. As long ago as when our son was a toddler Monsignor would tell us that he "looked like a St. Charles man." Our son was also blessed to serve mass at IC with Monsignor. We are so grateful to have had his presence in our lives.

Gary and Deb Jeffers

September 10, 2008

When I started volunteering at St Charles my older son was here (Ray, class of 04), I would see Father Bennett once a week. Every time I saw him, he would say "I don't know you. Who are you." This went on for three years. When I started working at St Charles, he said, "I know you. Who is your son....and do I know him." Both my sons have wonderful memories of Father Bennett. My younger son (Ryan, class of 06) as a freshman would collect the money for the freshman religion books and go to Father to buy the books - he was big as a freshman and Father Bennett didn't realize he was a freshman and didn't make him do pushups. Father Bennett will be sorely missed, but we will always hold a little part of him in our memories and in our hearts!

Beth DeVine

Beth DeVine

September 10, 2008

Fr. Bennett was the teacher every underclassman was fearful of having, but once you had him you knew why everyone liked him so much. He was truly a gift to all students that passed through those halls. Thank you Father for that you have done. You will be deeply missed by all.

Michael Roof

September 10, 2008

Father Bennett taught me one of the most valuable lessons I've ever learned, and he did it in his patented, terrifying style. I got a 15% (!!) on my first exam in his freshman American History course and I was in shock, because I knew most of the answers. He would dictate the exam questions with exact details on how to write out the questions on our paper - where to write the number of the question, where to write the question itself, where to write the answer. Even though I got the answers right, I didn't write them out in the specified way and he took points off for it. No teacher had ever been so 'unfair' to me before. I went to his room to ask him about it and he told me "not to come crying to him" (or something equally pleasant) and told me that following directions is as important as knowing the answers.
20 years later, I keep that lesson in mind every day. Paying attention to the "simple" details in your daily life will take you as far, if not farther than any of the grand lessons you learn.
That lesson sums up Father Bennett, and it sums up the value of a St. Charles education. I'm trying to teach that same lesson to my young children now. I'm sad that they won't ever get to meet Father Bennett (or Monsignor Gallen) but I'm happy to know that their work on my behalf will have an impact on their lives.
John Vaughn, MD (Class of 89)

John Vaughn

September 10, 2008

I would have loved to have seen St. Peter's face at the Pearly Gates as Father approached and said "Who are you?"
Father often complained that our boys had no manners, but he was wrong. Father, these young men that have known you are the best mannered gentlemen, and represent St. Charles with grace and class. Thank you Father for being the big teddy bear we ALL know you were. With much love

Laurie Berndt

September 10, 2008

I did not attend St Charles and have never met Fr Bennett. However I do know Fr Bennett through the many St Charles graduates I have met and worked with over the years. Fr Bennett lives through them. We are all better off because of Fr Bennett may God bless him and continue to bless us.

Pakie McGinnis

September 10, 2008

Father;

You made a lasting impression on my son Charles. He is a better man for his time with you and at St. Charles. May God bless you and recieve you.

Bill Butler

September 10, 2008

I can't help but think of "The Soldier" with Father's passing…

If I should die, think only this of me:
That there's some corner of a foreign field
That is for ever England. There shall be
In that rich earth a richer dust concealed;
A dust whom England bore, shaped, made aware,
Gave, once, her flowers to love, her ways to roam,
A body of England's, breathing English air,
Washed by the rivers, blest by suns of home.

Father always got a look in his eye when he recited this to us in class. He loved England and the Queen, but I think this poem also reflects Father's feelings for SC. As much as he was a part of SC for all of us, Father only wished to give back to his students all the joy SC had given to him over the years. I was lucky enough to share his name and birthday, be his student and friend, serve Mass for him, and make it back for one last visit this June before I moved out after college. His open door and advice will be sorely missed. Where Father rests will forever be a piece of St. Charles, and his students will forever carry a piece of him and St. Charles within them.

Tom Tilton '04

September 10, 2008

A recent e-mail from a good friend of mine, Don Harrison(75), told me of Father Bennett's death. I was just reminiscing with Father Bede (74) at Benedicitine High School (Cleveland) last Thursday about our days at St Charles. We were recalling our favorite teachers, which of course included Father Bennett. I remember Father Bennett's history classes were always full of energy with his strong voice echoing all corners of the class room. His enthusiasim for history was infectious and that has continued with me today. However, my most enduring memory of Father Bennett was on a cold January day, Father Bennett would open all the windows to the class and say that "the cold is just in your mind" but I knew that it was not when I could see my breath. Father Bennett was an inspiration to all who were lucky enough to have him as a teacher and he will be missed.

Kurt Wollenberg(75)

September 10, 2008

We met Father Bennett 17 years ago when he came to Immaculate Conception as our weekend assistant. When they were old enough, our sons (Ben '02 and Tom '04) each served 8:00 AM Mass with him for six years. I know he had some influence on their choice of St. Charles: On St. Blaise Day, 1998, Father held up a long line of parishioners waiting to have their throats blessed when he asked Ben (an undeclared eighth-grader), "So, are you going to St. Charles?" Ben replied, "I don't know yet, Father." Father Bennett: "Are you a man?" Ben: "Yes, Father." Father Bennett: "Then you're going to St Charles!" Ben: "Yes, Father."
He would let the boys use the telephone in his office to call home, but only if they said "I love you" before hanging up. The first time I heard Father prompting in the background, but we have him to thank for the thousands of "I love yous" we've heard since.
He would ask about them each Sunday as we left church, always interested in their news. We at IC heard Father say his last Mass there early in June. We began missing him then, and will continue to miss him terribly. We were blessed to have him in our lives.

Rick and Chris Tilton, Parents of Ben (SC '02) and Tom (SC '04)

September 10, 2008

We miss you already, Father.
My favorite memory has to be Father Bennett driving around and exhorting everyone on from his car during the Cardinal Walk every year. I am deeply sad that my son will not be able to learn from a St. Charles legend. Thank you for everything you did for us, and for the school.
Darren Price '95 and Rowan Price '26

Darren Price

September 10, 2008

All who have written here, thank you for sharing your memories of my beloved uncle. When I was very young we were at my grandmother's house, his 'dear mother', and I made some remark to him. I will never forget my Uncle Father Tom replied,
"Child I dearly love you but I must tell you I don't engage in
conversation with children until they reach the age of sixteen. Now would you be so kind as to bring me my Lucifers?" I happily fetched his book of matches.

He was a thoroughly loving soul. When I was a teenager he took my side when my father was remonstrating with me about the shortness of my miniskirt. He was profound and absolutely genuine. I was thrilled when he expressed a great liking for one of my ink paintings because I knew it really did please him, or he would not have been so enthusiastic. I recognize him in all of the tales everyone has shared. Thank you all so much for doing so.

Carol Bernard

September 10, 2008

I will always remember Father making me sing God Save the Queen and O Canada in class. Saint Charles has lost a great teacher.

Thank you Father for making us all who we are today.

Alex Davis '08

Alex Davis

September 10, 2008

Father your guidance and compassion over all your years at St. Charles helped shaped my life and all of the students you taught.

David Klunk '02

September 9, 2008

A true testament to one's life is not what they have owned but how they have lived. My, Father what a testament you have left. From all of us here signing this book of remembrance to all of us that will be there by your side for once last ring of the class bell. You will be greatly missed and cherished.
Although we are taught to rejoice at the welcoming of one of God's creatures into heaven I cant help but feel a little selfish. In some ways, Father it gives comfort that you were there mold and terrorizing ranks of freshmen with your teddy bear ways into men & leaders. I can only hope that in my own life I live up to your example in some significant way. You are truly the embodiment of the St Charles spirit.
You are in some way, part of the glue that ties us Carolians together. As we share memories of our past years warm stories of push ups, fearful office runners, stories of her majesty and above all else love for our mothers tie us together.
It is too bad that new generations of young men will not know your loving displeasure at being called "sir" or grammer mistakes.
Giants may fall and the their shadows fade but no matter what their legend lives on.
God Bless you father, I'll miss you and I hope that you can keep an eye out for us till we get there.
Coran Lorden class of 1996

Coran Lorden

September 9, 2008

Way too many stories to type for sure. Independent study day in Father's class, bringing treats to class in an attempt to further distract Father, extra meatballs for him at the spaghetti dinner, buying books from him, standing for "Mrs. Nurse" when she came to his classroom and preparing for an exam.

A few other paricularly funny memories is when Father would be doing our quarterly grades. If he found your grade had declined from one period to the next, he would say "Piccolantonio, 15 for being stupid" and up to the front to do 15 pushups while saying "study is the cure for stupidity" after each one.

If any student had a relative who previously attended St. Charles, father was quick to tell us how much more handsome he was than us.

Finally, as a freshman on my first day of school I got lost somehow and couldn't find the cafeteria(thank you Mrs. Nurse for saving me that day!). I wandered innocently past Fr. Bennett's room only to hear
"YOU! Come back here!" And there I was, a lowly freshman standing in front of a class full of juniors and Fr. Bennett. :
Are you a freshman?!"
"Yes Father"
"What are you doing in my hallway?!"
"I couldn't find the cafeteria"
"Well that's not my problem, and don't come down my hallway again".

I was too scared to eat at that point. I later found out what a wonderful man Fr. Bennett was. A truly gracious man. He will most certainly be missed.

Andy Piccolantonio '97

September 9, 2008

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